You know what is the most repugnant, distasteful and utterly revolting thing? When you go to a levaya to pay your last respects to someone and the maspid (eulogizer) uses the the opportunity to not speak so much about the niftar as he does about himself! Sometimes when someone writes a hesped too and bein hashuros (between the lines) you can hear / read LOUD & CLEAR how the speaker / writer is really talking more about themselves than the niftar and just using the good name & reputation of the niftar as an escalator to step upon for their own self aggrandizement! C'mon! You all know what I mean - don't you. Ill bet you do- you're just too polite to say it out in the open - even though we ALL think it!
You can usually tell who these self focused, narcissistic, individuals are (except they themselves are too self absorbed to even realize how gayvahdik they sound!)just by how many times they use the words "ME" & "I" in their hespeidim- which aught never be used in a hesped! In case you missed this - listen more carefully the next time the Malach Hamaves nebach does his job. Maybe after reading this - maspidim will be more sensitive and you won't hear these repulsive and detestable manners of eulogy any more! One can only hope!
Check out the following "readers write" article printed in the Yased last week. It is a prime example:
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I would like to thank you and compliment Rabbi Pinchas Mayer on the fine article he wrote about my rebbi, chavrusah and beloved friend, Rav Chaim Schmelczer zt"l.
[Editor's note: the writer wants you to know that Rabbi Chaim Schmelczer is HIS rebbe and more than that, also his personal CHAVRUSHA and FRIEND! Isn't he soooo chashuv?! Ugh! PUKE!]
I would just like to add the invaluable lesson that I learned from him and which to me spoke volumes as to how he approached everything he did for Klal Yisroel.
[Editor: Catch all the unnecessary "I" & "ME"? And btw, he also learned something too! Not just that Rabbi Schmelczer set an example - but more so "I LEARNED IT"! Aren't I GREAT?! Ugh! PUKE!] ]
Whenever he was involved in doing something to help someone in need or an organization that was in a desperate situation, and all of the circumstances were laid out before him as to why nothing could be done to help or assist, his voice always rang out, "Af al pi kein." Even so, it must be done! And he was always right. No matter the reasons, no matter the excuses, no matter the cost, it had to be done and it was! That af al pi kein has always and will always personify to me the rosh yeshiva and rebbi, Rav Chaim Schmelczer.
[Editor: OMG, pass me the bucket - I am going to puke! Read this the way he means you too! I AM SUCH A TZADIK! EVEN THOUGH THE SITUATION THAT I AM PRESENTLY INVOLVED IN SEEMS SO HOPELESS - AND I MIGHT SUFFER BECAUSE OF MY MESSIORS NEFESH AND MY DEDICATION - NEVER THE LESS I AM LIKE MY REBBE AND I WILL DO WHATEVER IT TAKES! Yeech and puke]
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PJ - you should better have learned from HoRav Chaim Schmelczer that ehrlichkeit, honesty, integrity and SELFLESS mesiras nefesh for OTHERS, is what life is really all about and what Hashem ultimately wants and expects form you! Not a mega million dollar camp fraud, cheating Telshe Yeshiva from a fair and equitable rental of their facilities, theft from the US Government claiming to be a 501 c3 - when in truth you are very, very much, a for big profits business! If you would have learned ANYTHING from "your Rebbe" Reb Chaim ZT"L you would NOT be involved in the cheating, scamming, bullying, court going machlokes that you are!
Me thinks you are more a student of Ahraleh (MIA-Rosh Mechina) Levitansky than you are anyone else! And you are a GREAT student at that!
Get real with yourself . . . you are still the same old PJ you were when we were in the Yeshiva with you!